Happiness

So, been a long time since I've written a blog on here, and it's simply because nothing wrong has gone on in my life!! I've been too happy!!!

But there is one thing that has really annoyed me the past week.

I hate the way that some men think that they can get away with talking to women like crap.

My Story:

I was shopping with my friend Sarah in the supermarket the other day, when we saw her boyfriend Tyler and his friend Chris. They were chatting about things that had happened to them during the day, and i then walked off to get some juice. Seconds later i heard Sarah shout 'WHAT did you just say?" towards Chris; then to my horror i see Sarah storming towards me in a cage of fury mumbling "Rose, Lets leave... NOW." 

I then asked her what was said what made her so angry... and what i heard was to surprise even me!

I've never heard such up front blunt rudeness in my life; and the fact that Tyler didn't even stand up for Sarah made this even worse!!!!

Out of nowhere, Chris had decided to tell Sarah that she looks Pregnant, when he fully well knows that this is impossible as she has the implant and he has previously felt it!!

I couldn't believe my ears when I'd heard what Chris said to Sarah! This made me so angry, and the fact that Tyler hadn't even said anything like "Oh, dude, don't say that about my girlfriend, that's well out of order?.. Say sorry." But no,... he just stood there. I didn't know what to say? Should i say something to Tyler? I decided that it would be much easier to bitch about them both to Sarah in her apartment.

So in the end; a lot of texts were sent back and forth and a Rose was given out to Sarah in an apologetic manor, and all was in the end forgiven; but my feelings towards men who just blurt things out like that has really deteriorated... Not that there was anything there to start with.

My message:

Girls, please don't take any shit from men who decide to talk to you like you just fell off of the bottom of their shoe. You're really worth a lot more than that, and if they can't see that you deserve to be treated better, and talked to better, then you need to get them out of your life as soon as possible, because they are really going to make your life hell. 

As women, we naturally have a very low self esteem, but we don't need men saying snide remarks, and making it even lower.

So my message to you is, don't take any shit from anyone, be it a man or a woman, if they decide to put you down. They do it to get a reaction usually, and they really aren't worth your breath or time. Tell them where to stick it and walk away.... preferably don't ever talk to them again if they think they can get away with putting you down!!!

Trust Vs Paranoia

What is the difference between trusting someone too much, and being paranoid about everything?

As I've been growing up, i have had all different types of boyfriends that i have felt paranoia towards; but it's at a point where paranoia and trust clash and get slightly confusing.

No matter how much you trust someone, even if it is completely, because you love them so much, you worry about them finding someone else who is your complete opposite, and they might find them either more attractive, or they may have a better personality; but all these things develop into paranoia.

I have a huge paranoia issues with my boyfriend, but i know deep down inside i completely trust him because i know that he would never cheat on me; but the thing is, yeah we've been going out almost a year, but im still getting to know him, and i dont know what he is like around other girls, which is why i get paranoid.

What to do:

The main thing i tell myself is that, 'He is going out with you because he wants to, and if he didn't want to be with you he wouldn't'. This keeps my head on track, but sometimes i do go off track on occasions; but i try my best to keep it in; doing this can sometimes bottle it up, ending in an explosion of hatred, so i dont recommend this.

What not to do:

To try and help yourself with paranoia, is to not look at their phones or go onto their Facebook/Social Networking websites as they are allowed to talk to other women, as we talk to other guys; but things can and most likely will be taken the wrong way, so its better for both of you if things are kept private.

Knowing a password:

If you know your boyfriends password, and you can feel yourself wanting to go onto it and check messages, ask them if they can change their password, so that you can't. If they dont know that you know their password, then it's all to do with self will; you really have to trust your relationship and simply ignore the urge to go onto it; like i do.

At some point in a relationship there will be texts or messages that need to be discussed with your partner, but the thing is to not rush off in a hot head, but to sit down and wait for him to tell you exactly what it is about without getting angry. If he can't make a valid excuse, or you know that he is lying, then maybe its time to move on.

Ex-Relationships

Every girl i know has a problem with ex-girlfriends in a relationship, whether its because they are still hanging around like garden flies over your BBQ, or if they 'still talk'; the ex-girlfriend is a NO GO area for us females.

To sum things up in as simple form as i can think of; Women and Ex-partners should never be in the same conversation; let alone the same room.
If we end up in the same room, we are not responsible for our actions against one-another's faces.

My Story: 
I over react hugely against responses and conversations about ex-girlfriends, always have, and always will. This reason is that every ex-partner has either dumped me for their ex again, or gone straight back to them afterward. 
When a man tells another woman about their ex-partners, it gets you thinking; Firstly, why is he talking about it TO ANOTHER PERSON? Second, does he still think about them? Thirdly, Does he not realise IM STANDING RIGHT NEXT TO HIM??????
When your boyfriend talks to another lady about their ex's and how they had children that he loved playing with; this is on another level.
What if he feels like he has come out of this 'family relationship' to a 18 year old girl still in college?

Yeah he is a few years older, but not many.


He spoke so openly about it in front of me to another person, i didn't know whether to laugh or cry. I knew about the ex partner, but the fact of telling someone else in front of me was out of league.


Well, in the end i confronted him about how un necessary it was to tell this person about his previous relationship in front of me, and... yeah he was sweet about the whole situation, not realising i felt this way and apologising to me; telling me i was the only one for him, she didn't mean anything to him and that he is happy in this relationship with me, and that he couldn't be with anyone else. 


But, yeah it hurts, but girls, ex's really aren't something to get worked up about; they've been and gone in his life; and they have GONE for a reason.

Too fat? Too Thin?

There comes a time in every relationship where every girl thinks to themselves "Am i?". Always wondering what our men REALLY think about our weight. Only the real men who love you for who you are will tell you the truth, but try not to hurt your feelings.

Yesterday i had a bit of a break down, as I'd been extremely worried about my weight, and i thought that people had even started to notice. I was sat in bed watching a film, when i just wanted the satisfaction of knowing that someone out there wanted me, and wanted to touch me and be with me, so i started to grab his attention; when he said the dreaded words. "I'm too tired". No one has ever let me down before, with an excuse like that.

Feeling hurt and confused, as f he didn't fancy me anymore, i asked if he thought I'd gained weight... his response was: "Look, you know that since we have been together you've put on weight, so I'm not going to say you haven't because then you'd think i was a liar, and i don't want to ever lie to you, but the main thing is, your still beautiful, and to me, it doesn't look like you've put on weight on the outside."

I don't know how many times he must have rehearsed that, but my gosh.... it put me in my place, and i didn't care that we didn't have sex that night; i felt happy, that i had the only man in the UK that could call me fat, and get away with it, in the most charming of ways.